Hopeless Realist: I am me! You are you!

Just like in many other cultures, in Azerbaijan partners are weirdly imposed to be our "other half". I used to believe in that crap too but lately I started thinking..why can't I just be me and he be himself?! Why do we have to be "one"?- My mom laughed and said "that's why you are still single!"

Sometime after the last break-up I read an article where it said that "To call someone else your 'other half' assumes that you are less without them, which is not healthy way of viewing yourself". We all have been in relationships where either one's priorities outweighed the other and at breakups or divorces we felt that we really have lost ourselves. That is something they never taught us in Azerbaijan. In a culture where everything is about sacrificing yourself we were never told to hold on to ourselves and that healthy relationship is the one where both partners are exercising their freedoms, likes, hobbies, friendships on their own without compromising the other one. Nobody told us, we don't have to do same thing, eat the same thing, believe in the same thing, like the same thing...Nobody told us that we are unique the way we are and as long as we like each other the way we are the relationship we are in will be less monotonous and less simply sad.

All our lives we walk with empty left side believing that there will be a guy/girl walking with his/her empty left to match us like in lego figures. And then we will both dance the relationship tango until one stops and then unclicks himself/herself from the 'other half' leaving us/them with a huge black hole. LOL! How could we all believe in a shit like this? Why can't we just be ourselves and fill the left side with a lot of love, respect, magic selves? Why do we ha
ve to tango together while one of us could enjoy salsa and another step dancing? Why can't we enjoy each other's weird selves rather than becoming one boring and unhealthy organ doomed to stagnate and rot?

Think about it before it is too late. Start filling your empty left with self love and explore yourself as we are all one rich garden full of exciting plans and flowers. Believe me love will find you then as Love does not like needy people in misery ;)